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It’s almost New Year’s! For some people that marks the day to set new goals for the coming year. It is a hopeful time of year, and the phrase on everybody’s lips is “This year I’m going to…”. Goals range from establishing a new and personally valuable habit to shedding an old, bad habit. It is determination, confidence and a new strategy for goal accomplishment that rings in with the new year, as we resolve to succeed this time.

Goals come in all shapes and sizes. Some are huge, some are small. Some are finite, some are life-long goals. Some goals may be easier to reach than others. Some goals terminate in a single event. Such as, “This year I will take a cruise,” or perhaps “This year I will retire from work.” Other goals may be longer term goals. For example, “This year I am going to make a significant dent in my debt load,” or perhaps “This year I volunteer more of my time.” Perhaps you are setting goals to last your life time, for instance, “This year I will eat healthier so that I will feel better and live longer” or “This year I will quit drinking.” Our goals and our reasons for setting them are individual, personal and worthwhile.

How successful are you at reaching your annual goals? Have you made this goal before, over and over, and never quite get where you want to be? Sometimes it is a struggle, especially when trying to break bad habits. Many goal seekers need assistance in tracking their goals. Consistency does help establish new behaviors. There are several sites on the internet that offer goal tracking software, some are better than others; three popular ones are Habitmix, Joe’s Goals and Habittracker.

These three sites offer similar frameworks, such as listing your goals and tallying your success each day, but Habitmix offers details that are lacking in Joe’s Goals and Habittracker. Habitmix lets you put your commitment into statement form, which you can review each day. This is a valuable habit for busy lifestyles, and a necessary one to fully establish or extinguish specific behaviors. The simplicity and limitations of the other sites, Joe’s Goals and Habittracker, truly limit the depth of application. On Habitmix, you can prioritize goals and related behaviors and also add a time commitment to them separately. Doing so allows you to balance daily goals, weekly goals or longer ones simultaneously.

In Habitmix you get to put your core values into writing. Joe’s interface is simplistic, and it allows you to put check marks for accomplishing certain goals on a daily basis, while Habitmix allows you to break down the goal into the necessary steps, and mark the steps as they are accomplished each day. For a social connection and motivation you can connect your core values to your Facebook, MySpace, a blog or a website. Adding the touch of social pressure might be just the extra push you need.

Habitmix gives you the tools to break down your goals into manageable steps and monitor your own progress. By reading over your commitment statement daily, you are reminding yourself, even when life is chaotic, what you want to achieve and why. If your previous record of goal accomplishment has fallen a little short of where you want it to be, then check out Habitmix. The only time you truly fail is when you stop trying.

Ok, so you have some ideas about how you want to improve your life and the lives of the people around you.  That’s great, you really are ahead of the pack because many people never even get as far as deciding on their goals, never mind picking the new habits required to achieve them.

Here are a few tips that will help you stick to your New Years Resolutions.

Make Them Specific

Don’t say ‘I want to excercise 4 times a week’, say ‘I want to power walk before dinner from the house to the school and back 4 times a week monday to thursday”.  Uncertainty is the enemy of habit! Every chance to decide or debate is a chance for the evil gremlins in your mind to talk you out of taking action, darn those evil gremlins!

Get Other People Involved

Often we are more motivated by the fear of letting other people down than we are of the fear of letting ourselves down. You could simply tell your friends and family about your resolutions and the new habits you want to take up. It’s probably worth telling them that you are serious about these new changes in your life and you would appreciate support.

Taking it a step further you can find other people around you with similar goals and resolutions and form a team to take up the challenge together.  If you want to exercise more ask them to join you, if you want to eat more healthily ask them to regularly exchange recipes with you.

Prepare for stumbles along the way and don’t confuse them with failure

Unless you are superman or superwoman you are going to stumble along the way. You will do yourself a great service by expecting to stumble and slip up from the very start. Some people think that an iron will and being 100% committed is the key to changing your life and taking up new positive habits. This is garbage, the key is to create the support structures in your life that will make it as easy as possible for you to do the right thing and as hard as possible to do the wrong thing.

If after a good start you falter and eat some unhealthy food or fail to exercise or follow your resolutions it’s easy to fall into self pity and start thinking of yourself as a failure. Ironically it’s often these same negative emotions that drive us to destructive behaviour. Well I have news for you. You’re not a failure if you slip up, fall of the wagon, have a bad week or mess up. You are a failure if you then give in and stop trying!

Prepare now for what you are going to say to yourself if you start to struggle. If you want to know what you should say to yourself if you find yourself struggling it’s easy, what would you say to your best friend if they were struggling ? Would you tell them to quit or give up ? Would you tell them that maybe they aren’t good enough ?  I didn’t think so.

Try Stuff, get creative

Maybe sticking pictures of the body you want on the wall above your computer will motivate you, maybe not, maybe repeating a moving saying to yourself every morning will motivate you, maybe a morning walk where you think about where you want your life to go is your thing. We are all different and we all have different sweet spots when it comes to changing our behaviour.

Don’t spend lots of time thinking about how to do it, get started and see what works.

We will have more tips coming in the future, if you have any questions or feedback for the HabitMix crew we’d love to hear from you.